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Personal Development Profit #4 Relationships

Relationships, hm, always a difficult topic! They either lift you up or drag you down. But I’m sure that when you improve your personal development, you are better able to see which relationships are worth investing in and which need to be let go of (and I don’t mean that you need to become mercenary but that you need to protect your boundaries!). At the same time, you also develop skills to make the most of those relationships which have the most positive impact on your life. Yes!

When you give no thought to your personal development, you give little thought to the value of your relationships. You take relationships as they come. Am I right? You end up with ‘friends’ who become friends because you spent some time around each other. You don’t become friends because you support each other to become better people, every day. For me it’s crucial!

My dear, you will meet different people in your life. It’s more than sure! 

With some of them, you will build long-lasting, beautiful and valuable relationships. Their role will be to give you wings so that you can fly with the conviction that you are not alone. But others will appear on your way to provide you with a real emotional kick and put your best to the test, inciting anxiety and making you lose ground at some point. Some other people will appear only for a moment, so you can understand something (hopefully 🙂 and get to know yourself better. Wow, it’s enlightening! At least it was for me. 

Last six months I let go of some people, which was not easy for me but it was a great lesson!
The most important was to understand what was in it for me, why I engaged in it and what to avoid in the future!
 

Of course, you should be friendly with everybody, if possible. But I want to draw your attention to the fact that being friendly and being friends is not the same thing. If you are real friends with someone, you make time for them and, you are prepared to go out of your way to help them if you can. You care about them, and their wellbeing is important to you. I think that a great deal of stress in life comes from not distinguishing between those whom you are friendly with, and whom you are friends with. You end up giving too much to the wrong people and, not enough time to those whom you should be really giving your time to. For me, it was exhausting until I understood this difference. 

When personal development is essential to you, you ensure that your friendships are mutually beneficial, enabling both of you to become the best they can be. You give as much time as possible to your family, friends and beloved ones. Then, you try to be friendly with everyone else. Treat people as you would like them to treat you, but when you sense bad intentions and negative energy that is supposed to hit you, act. Strengthen healthy self-esteem, respect yourself and others and have a distance to life. 

What is your experience with building relationships? Share with us!

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